Hello everyone,

I’m 14 and my parents have been separated since I was 2, divorced when I was 12.

I just wanted to offer you all one small piece of advice. After a divorce make sure you stay in touch with your kids. It is the hardest thing in the world for a child to not know where their mother or father is and not know for sure that they love them.

My father made the mistake of losing touch without ever explaining why to me, my brother, and my sister. My brother and sister now hate him and will have nothing to do with him. I have managed to get in touch with him and have seen him twice in the past three years, but he still will not call my house. If I want to talk to him I need to call him.

Never let this happen between you and your kids. It causes so much unnecessary pain for both sides involved.

Also, if you’re planning on getting a divorce don’t just leave in the middle of th night thinking no one is watching. I saw my father preparing to leave and, even though I was young at the time, I can remember it like it was yesterday. My father doesn’t know that I saw him. This memory has haunted me for so long. If my dad had just told me he was leaving it would have made it easier on me and my siblings.

Please just think about what I have said.

Jill